You feel it before you say a word.
That fast feeling in your chest and stomach. Your mind getting loud and busy, lining up every comeback and every point you’re about to make.
By the time it all comes out, it’s bigger than what you meant. Then somehow the argument is about something completely different, and you’re crying in the bedroom while he sits on the couch.
You wanted to feel understood. You wanted to feel attractive and clear and steady, even in the middle of a disagreement.
Spoken With Intention teaches you how to express what you’re feeling without causing unnecessary conflict, so you can create more closeness, connection, and attraction instead.
You’re here to become a woman who expresses herself fully.
I hear you…
For a long time I didn’t know how to talk about my feelings, so I’d wait until I was about to pop, and then it would all come out at once.
I’d snap, say things I didn’t mean, and make grand assumptions about what he was thinking, and every time it drove the wedge between us a little deeper.
Then came the snowboarding day. I’d felt left out and insecure from the moment we arrived, the way I often did in big groups, while he was charismatic and lighting up the whole crowd, and by the time I made it off the mountain, last, with everyone waiting on me, I was exhausted and gutted that he hadn’t waited. That’s where the argument started, right there at the bottom of the mountain, and I was completely hijacked by my insecurity and my lack of belonging. By the time we got on the bus home, we’d gone silent, and it felt different.
Once we got home, the fight picked up again. I honestly can’t tell you what it was about by then, because I could feel him pulling away, and then I heard the words, “I don’t think we should do this anymore.” It felt like a stab in my heart. Everything went black.
We went to bed with it all unresolved, and the next day I couldn’t even stand up at work. My colleagues rallied around me while I texted him about ending things, and we spent a few weeks in a break up that hurt us both. That’s when I made the decision to learn about myself, to heal, and to get so much better at communicating.
Everything I didn’t know how to do that day became a module in this program.
Let’s talk about conflict.
Honestly, a lot of the conflict between two people doesn’t need to happen. It comes from feelings that build up until they come out sideways, from assumptions about what the other person is thinking, and from not feeling heard. That’s the kind of conflict this program helps you let go of.
And then there’s the conflict that does matter: two people disagreeing and staying connected anyway. That’s conscious conflict, and I teach a whole module on it.
Conflict, when conscious, helps you maintain your identity, which is crucial for a healthy relationship (or friendship).
You’ll learn to tell the two apart, and what to do with each.
What will you learn inside Spoken With Intention?
Module 1: The Masculine and The Feminine
You learn what you and your partner each need in order to feel heard, safe, and understood. (This one changes how you hear him, and how you ask to be heard.)
Module 2: Your Energy and Emotions Speak
You learn what you’re communicating before you ever open your mouth, and how to feel what’s rising first so your words come from steadiness.Module 3: Word Artistry and Cultivating Clear Perceptions
You learn to choose words that land the way you mean them, and to catch the assumptions you’ve been filling in for him.Module 4: Setting Boundaries and Having Your Needs Met
You learn to ask for what you need and hold your boundaries without the guilt and overcompensating.Module 5: Conscious Conflict
You learn what conscious conflict is and why it matters, how to disagree with compassion, and how to stay connected, clear, and attracted to each other through the hard conversations.Module 6: Holding The Space
You learn to listen for what’s underneath, name your own insecurity out loud, and be the person who can hold the space.
Here’s what’s different now.
That fast feeling still shows up. It still rises in my chest and stomach.
What’s different is the next few seconds. I notice my body getting hijacked, so I ask for space, walk away, feel it, and come back when I’m steadier. I ask myself, “Is this worth it?” I look for what we’re fighting for instead of against.
When my husband and I clash over parenting now, we get curious about what’s driving each other’s choices instead of trying to win. I can give him room to parent his way, because I know we want the same things for our kids.
Here’s the thing... when you communicate from a grounded place, clear on what you feel and why, something shifts. The first time he says “I understand” or “I see where you’re coming from,” I can literally feel energy coming off of me.
That sensation of confidence is what makes me feel desirable.
Maybe you’re telling yourself you’ll figure it out on your own.
Or that the arguing will fizzle out eventually. I thought the same, until we nearly ended things. It doesn’t fizzle out until you learn the foundations of healthy emotional expression.
That’s what this is.
This is my intention for YOU.
You are no longer available for misunderstandings and feeling misheard.
You are no longer available for conflict that ends with only one person “winning.”
You are no longer available for conversations that leave you questioning yourself after they’re over.
You are available for being fully heard, and for feeling closer to him after you’ve said it. Finally.
You’re here to say how you feel, and feel more connected and attracted because of it.
The finer details.
Spoken With Intention, The Program:
6 pre-recorded modules, available as soon as you enrol.
Lifetime access.
Self paced. You can take the amount of time that feels good for you to move through this program and apply it.
Welcome to Spoken With Intention. Are you ready?
